Dear Weary Stay-at-Home Mom…

You, yes you. I see you trying to hold it all together. Holding it all together in the midst of battling sleep deprivation, negotiating with toddlers, stepping over small toys in the hopes you don’t accidentally step on one, carrying the weight of the household, making sure everyone gets to where they need to be, shopping for groceries, folding load after load of laundry, making appointments; the list goes on and on, and I know you feel as though it never ends.

I know because I also feel the weight of it all. Don’t get me wrong; Bob is an amazing partner who helps out around the house without me having to ask and works really hard outside of the home to provide for our family. But while the financial weight is on his shoulders, he isn’t thinking about remembering which bill is due that day or what we are having for dinner or what the kids are going to have for a snack or if both kids will take a nap.

I know because I, too, struggle with not getting enough sleep and still hitting the ground running at 5:30 in the morning catering to my nearly twelve-month-old who is a terrible sleeper.

I know because I struggle with feeling like I hardly ever get a break from my kids or even a break from my “job” even though Bob never complains when I just need to get out of the house by myself.

I know because sometimes I feel like my identity is solely “Mom” instead of “Amanda”. My world seems to revolve around my children. And while I would do anything for them, I also need time to myself to feel like me. {And date nights out of the house with my husband}.

I especially see you who has thin patience. Because between the not sleeping well and the anxiety and the whining and toddlers testing boundaries, I yell too much. And it kills me every time. But I know I’m not alone, and neither are you.

I see you, friend. You may not feel like unloading the dishwasher is important. You may feel like you can’t possibly fold another load of laundry. Or break up another argument between your kids. You may wonder if you are living out your true purpose. You may feel that pang of guilt when you’ve yelled for the thousandth time because your toddler isn’t listening…again.

But here’s the thing…you are living your purpose as a mom. Doing those chores is important. Breaking up the arguments – though frustrating – means you are teaching your children. And yes, you yelled again. But you are human.

One of the most important things someone told me when I had C was that I needed a whole lot of coffee and a whole lot of grace. Even if it feels like no one is watching or appreciative of all the work you pour into your home and family; God does. And he is smiling down on you even in the midst of the chaos.

“Come to me, all who are weary, and I will give you rest.”

Take a deep breath, mama. It’s ok to feel weary. But also know you are loved by a God who wants you to take His light yoke and rest in Him.


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